are many reasons why you should not kill yourself. Consider
these and seek the help and support you need to resist
any suicidal urges.
deserve to live and there is somebody who
life has value, whether or not I can see it
abuse I experienced was not my fault.
didn't choose to be battered.
abusers were and are wrong.
will feel better eventually.
time I confront my despair I will get stronger.
I die I will never again feel love, trust,
I die I will never again see kindness and
compassion in another's eyes.
I die I will never again see the sunlight
streaming through the leaves of trees, or
a bird take flight, or feel
the warmth of the sun in winter.
seconds do pass and even if it feels like
time has become an unbearable weight, I only
have to endure this second.
have already won - I had the resilience, courage
and will to survive.
have the resilience, courage and will to keep
will to live is a priceless gift.
inner child needs me, she/he has no one else
and her/his need is so great and she/he
deserves more than anyone to be healed and
owe it to myself to survive.
I die I will negate the significance of my
suffering and the incredible endurance I have
already have the skills to find my healing
path; I have proven this over and over again.
can help fight the scourge of abuse for others.
My survival is a testament.
understand the meaning of suffering, and agony
deepens the heart.
deserve the peace that will come after this
battle is won, and it will be won.
will come to show that even though my abusers
had the power, strength and ruthless
cunning, even though I was a helpless, innocent,
dependent child, I have beaten them.
am angry that I have to suffer this pain.
and Facts about Suicide
who talk about suicide do not commit
" Suicide happens without warning ."
" Suicidal people are fully intent
on dying. Nothing can stop them. "
" All suicidal individuals
are mentally ill "
" Talking about suicide may
give someone the idea. "
majority of people who attempt
suicide do or say something
to express their intention
before they act. Statements
like, "I wish I was dead"
or " You'll be sorry
when I'm gone," are likely.
persons give many clues
and warnings - both verbal
and non-verbal - regarding
their suicidal intentions.
the most severely depressed
person has ambivalent feelings
about suicide. Suicidal
people do not want to die,
they just want their pain
to end. If allowed to explore
their feelings, with empathy
and acceptance, without
intruding into their dignity,
most suicidal people feel
that their pain is lessened.
In time, suicidal feelings
might dissipate and the
person returns to active
people undergoing suicidal
feelings are healthy individuals.
They may be upset, grief-stricken,
depressed or despairing,
but are not necessarily
suffering from mental illness.
addressing the subject shows
a willingness to help and
is the first step towards
providing help. Talking
with someone about his or
her suicidal feelings that
were already there can lead
to a lightening of painful
feelings, if absent, will
NOT be introduced just by
talking about suicide.
about Suicide in Kerala
rate in Kerala is consistently high and almost
three times India's average.
In a day, about 26 persons take their lives
- of them 18 are men and 8 are women.
From 1995 to 2003, suicide incidence rose
by 17.8%; suicide rate rose by 9.6%.
male-female ratio is 73:27. Male suicide rate
rising since 1996.
variation among districts - Idukki tops in
districts register suicide rates higher than
state average - These are Idukki, Wayanad,Kollam,
Thrissur, Palakkad, Thiruvananthapuram,
Pathanamthitta and Kannur.
80% of suicidal deaths in Kerala take place
among the age group of 15-59 yrs.
As many as 106 suicidal deaths among children
below 14 years.
proneness among elder persons is acute.
children below 14 years, incidence among girls
exceeds that among boys.
proneness is high among young women of the
age group 15-29 yrs. Male-Female
ratio for that age group is 58:42 (overall
ratio is 70:30)
aged men of 45-59 yrs too are highly suicide
prone. Male-Female ratio for that age
group is 77:23.